10 things men do in secret, but won’t admit
Ever wondered what men do when no one’s around to see? The stuff that goes on behind closed doors?
Yeah, we’re talking about those little secrets guys keep hidden from the world, but trust me, they’re way more common than you think. From caring about their appearance and romantic comedies to unexpected shopping habits, men have their own set of quietly kept quirks. For example, according to Mintel, more than half (52%) of US men use facial skincare products.
And the best part? They won’t ever admit it to anyone, at least not unless they’re in a deep, trusting conversation with their closest friends (or maybe after a few too many drinks). So, let’s look into some of these things that men secretly do but won’t ever admit.
Spoiler: You’ll probably laugh, but you might also recognize a few habits you didn’t know existed.
They Enjoy Romantic Comedies
Yes, you read that correctly. Men secretly love romantic comedies. You know those sappy movies with predictable plots, the ones where the guy wins the girl back just before the credits roll? Guess what? Men watch them. A lot. But, admit it, they’re never going to say it out loud. Why? Because society says it’s not cool for men to enjoy rom-coms. That whole “tough guy” persona just doesn’t fit with crying over Notting Hill.
Reality: it’s just pure fun. Who doesn’t love a happy ending once in a while? Men won’t admit it because, well, it’s more fun to pretend to be a tough guy. But in the comfort of their own homes, with a cold drink in hand, they’re probably hitting play.
They Care About Their Appearance More Than They Let On
Guys, let’s be real for a second. You might not be the first to admit it, but you care about how you look. I’m not talking about spending hours in front of a mirror (although some do). But yes, men secretly go the extra mile to ensure they look sharp.
The gym routine? Check. Haircut every two weeks? Yup. But here’s the kicker: Grooming routines are a thing. A surprising number of men have skincare regimens they follow religiously, but would never openly admit it. In fact, according to Mintel, more than half (52%) of US men use facial skincare products.
Why don’t they admit it? Simple. Men have been socialized to believe that grooming is a “feminine” thing. But it’s 2026, people, let’s ditch that outdated thinking. Men want to look good and feel confident, so who cares if they’re doing a 3-step skincare routine? IMO, it’s better than not doing it and walking around looking like you’ve just crawled out of a cave.
They Google Their Crushes or Significant Others
Oh, come on, don’t act like you haven’t done this. Every guy has had that moment when curiosity got the best of him, and he found himself diving deep into someone’s social media, or even Googling them.
Research by the International Journal of Academic Research in Business and Social Sciences on cyberstalking behaviors reveals that 60% of Americans aged 18-39 admit to digitally monitoring current partners, ex-partners, or crushes without their consent. You might even do a quick search for “What’s this person into?” or “What’s their ex like?” because, let’s face it, a little background check never hurt anyone.
Here’s the funny part: they’ll never admit it. If you ask, the answer will be a resounding “Nah, man, I don’t do that stuff.” But deep down, we all know the truth. Why don’t they admit it? It’s not about being paranoid, it’s about being human. Everyone wants to know more about the person they’re interested in. It’s just part of the game. But shh, let’s keep this on the down low, okay?
They Ask for Help (Even Though They Won’t Admit It)
“Can I borrow your charger?” “How do I fix this thing?” Men do ask for help, but only in secret. It’s one of those unwritten rules, men are supposed to be self-sufficient, right? Well, sometimes asking for help feels like admitting defeat, so they’d rather Google it or ask a buddy in private, as PubMed Central highlights.
FYI: This doesn’t mean they won’t ask for help when absolutely necessary. They’ll just do it in private. They’d rather admit to trying to assemble IKEA furniture without the instructions than ask for help in front of a group. #Pride
They Care Deeply About Their Friendships
Sure, men might joke around about how they don’t need “emotional” friendships or that they’re “too cool” to care about their buddies, but deep down, they care. Men have a unique bond with their friends, and they value those relationships more than they often admit. They might not openly talk about it all the time, but it’s there.
Late-night conversations, the inside jokes, the “bro-code” moments, it all means something. They just won’t necessarily go on and on about it because, let’s be honest, guys can be a bit awkward when it comes to getting emotional in front of each other.
But those friendships? They’re important. Maybe not always expressed in flowery words, but they run deep. Next time a guy says, “Nah, I don’t really talk about feelings,” just remember he probably cares a lot more than he lets on.
They Overthink Relationships
Yeah, believe it or not, men overthink relationships too. And no, we’re not just talking about the obvious “should I text first?” dilemma. Men often lie awake at night replaying moments from their dates, thinking, “Was that joke too much”?
Every guy second-guesses himself, if it’s about how they’re coming across, if their partner is really into them, or if they’re doing something wrong. According to a report by the Counseling Center Group, Overthinkers in relationships often experience heightened anxiety and stress. They’re just keeping it to themselves. Trust me on that one.
Why don’t they admit it? Simple: Vulnerability is hard. Men are expected to be cool, collected, and confident, so admitting that they spend sleepless nights thinking about their relationship just doesn’t fit the mold. But hey, we all do it, right?
They Love a Good Shopping Spree (But Won’t Admit It)
Let’s break this down: men love to shop. They just don’t always want to talk about it. Some guys get a serious thrill out of buying new gadgets, clothes, or even sneakers. But when it comes to admitting it, they’ll usually downplay it. “Oh, I just needed a new pair of shoes,” or “I’ve had this jacket for ages.” Sure, buddy. We believe you.
Men love treating themselves to a good shopping spree. Be it at the tech store, the shoe shop, or the latest gaming setup, they’re all in. Why don’t they admit it? Because shopping isn’t seen as “masculine”. But who says you can’t enjoy it? In the end, if it feels good, do it, shopping sprees included.
They Enjoy Being Pampered
No, they’re not immune to the allure of a little self-care. Men enjoy being pampered, even if they won’t shout it from the rooftops. Massages, facials, a good old-fashioned spa day, men secretly love these experiences but won’t readily admit it.
According to a report by Sustain Health, there has been an astounding 346% increase in male spa-goers since 2018. It’s like this hidden treasure of relaxation that, for some reason, doesn’t fit the “manly” image. But why not? Everyone deserves a little pampering.
The best part? When they finally get over their “too tough for this” phase and experience it, they’re hooked. And they’re never going to admit how much they actually enjoy it. Seriously, who wouldn’t want a relaxing massage after a long day?
They Worry About Their Health, but Won’t Talk About It
Health concerns? Yep, men have them, and they worry about them too. But are they going to talk about it? Not a chance. If it’s about getting older, feeling run down, or dealing with stress, men don’t like talking about their health issues. It’s like this unwritten rule that men have to be strong and invincible, so the idea of opening up about health worries feels like admitting weakness.
But honestly, it’s perfectly normal to worry about health. Mental health issues, physical issues, men face them too, and it’s okay to address them. But will they? Not usually. They’d rather tough it out. Go figure.
They Feel Pressure to Be the “Provider.”
Finally, here’s a big one: the pressure to be the provider. Men are often expected to be the breadwinners, the stable rocks in relationships or families. Even if they’re struggling to keep up, they’ll rarely admit it. Why? Because being the provider is ingrained in the societal expectation of what a “man” is. It’s a silent weight that they carry, sometimes without anyone knowing.
Men may not always ask for help or vocalize the strain they feel, but trust me, they feel it. This is another one of those silent burdens that men bear, and it’s part of the reason why emotional conversations can be difficult. The struggle to meet those expectations is real, and it’s a lot heavier than most people realize.
Key Takeaways
Men have a lot more going on behind closed doors than they let on. From secretly Googling their crush to indulging in rom-coms, there’s no shortage of hidden habits. But it’s not just about quirky habits; it’s about the pressures men face and how they handle them. Whether it’s the constant worry about their health or the unspoken weight of being a provider, men feel a lot and often keep it to themselves.
If anything, these secrets just show how much society’s expectations affect what men say and do. It’s time to let go of the stereotypes and realize that, yes, men can care deeply about their appearance, their friendships, and their relationships, without needing to check their “man-card” at the door. So, the next time a guy refuses to admit he loves rom-coms or struggles with being the provider, maybe give him a little grace. We all have our secrets, right?
And hey, if you’re a guy reading this, go ahead, admit it. You’ve done at least one of these things. You know it’s true.
Disclosure line: This article was written with the assistance of AI and was subsequently reviewed, revised, and approved by our editorial team.
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